- Toastmasters International
Darren Tay, a 27-year-old Singaporean lawyer, became the 2016 Toastmasters International world champion of public speaking in August, surviving several rounds of a competition that lasted six months and included more than 30,000 competitors from Toastmasters’ public speaking clubs around the world.
He’s been refining his public speaking skills since he was in high school, and in 2009, he founded the Public Speaking Academy in Singapore.
Over time, he’s seen recurring mistakes among novice speakers. He told Business Insider there are two he sees most often.
They are too self-conscious of their gestures
“I’m not saying that the nonverbal communication aspect is not important, it’s just that they become obsessed with hand gestures, or where they stand on a particular part of the stage, or if they had the right hip rotation,” Tay said. “But many times they do it at the expense of content.”
Tay believes that the speech should guide gestures, and not vice versa. To help with this, he prepares for every speech with at least a couple of minutes of mindfulness meditation, which entails closing his eyes and breathing deeply and slowly, and “power poses” of stretching his arms wide and above his head, mimicking expressions of triumph. These two exercises help him link his mind with his body, he said.
Tay also noted that it’s common for novice public speakers to gesture either too close to their face, which suggests nervousness, or too low, which is distracting. He said the ideal gesture center is around the belly button, and that moving outside of this could be used for dramatic effect.
They impose a wall on their progress
“Most public speakers who are starting out always think that it’s about nature and not nurture,” Tay said, explaining that it’s simply not true. “I started off as a very diffident, very shy individual, and it took me quite some time before I started to build my strengths and my abilities to be a better public speaker.”
Sure, people have a tendency to be extroverted or introverted, but the fact that a confident extrovert may be more willing to get in front of an audience doesn’t mean that they will give a great presentation.
Tay recommends finding a mentor whom you feel comfortable rehearsing with and who will give you truly honest feedback while still being supportive. Someone gives a great presentation when they have spent hours practicing how to connect with an audience on an intimate level, and that is a skill that can be tailored to any personality.